Strategies Parents Can Use to Control Attitude and Temper

Listed below are simple strategies parents can use to control their feelings and emotions when faced with major obstacles. If you are facing problems in a relationship; such as the workplace or with your children, these simple strategies will work. Parents, you face many challenges every day whether you are a working mom or a stay at home mom or dad.

Parents, it is very important to understand the magnitude of the daily challenges you face. If you deal with them improperly, you can damage your relationship with your teenage and younger children as well as with your spouse if married. When you are out of control, undesirable negative consequences may occur. Life is never simple but the more resources you have in your arsenal to combat difficult issues during conflicts, you will become more successful.

Listed below are potential negative consequences due to uncontrolled attitude and temper.

Negative Consequences of Uncontrolled Attitude and Temper

• Closed mindedness
• Create insecurity Reduced creativity, innovation & productivity
• Fosters Broken relationships
• Lead to physical sickness
• Creates uncontrolled depression and stress
• Use of drugs, tobacco and alcohol
• Isolate self from peers
• Perform just enough to complete the task
• Abandon responsibility
• Poor eating habits
• Foster Low self-esteem
• Lead to potential divorce
• Negative impact on family and others
• Lead to potential incarceration
• loss of credibility
• Leads to negative impact on character
• Causes an individual to potential run away from responsibilities

Strategies to Control Attitude and Temper

• Motivate self and others to move in the same direction
• Accept changes
• Accept constructive criticism
• Avoid being jealous of peers
• Avoid overreacting to a negative situation
• Take time out before you react to a negative situation
• Apologize when you are wrong or hurt a person’s feelings and or emotions
• Avoid over use of your power
• Believe in self and others
• Communicate precisely and consistently with each other
• Communicate your feelings with respect
• Take time to relax and exercise
• Eat a balanced and nutrient meal
• Encourage each other to be innovative and creative
• Perform regardless of the obstacles you face
• Forgive those who disappoint or hurt you, it limits the pain
• Take time to relax and exercise
• Network when necessary to accomplish success
• Resolve conflict quickly without submitting to Mr. and Mrs. Attitude and Temper

I am convinced that the greatest challenge we face as parents and individuals is the task of controlling our attitude and temper. I hope with a sincere heart that those of you struggling with controlling your attitude and temper that you seek the help you need. This is necessary to avoid destroying relationships you have with your family and others. You must believe that you can control Mr. and Mrs. Attitude and Temper which is you. I pray you will have the commitment and strength to apply the above simple strategies to control attitude and temper.
Written: Mr. Wisdom

(c) 2011 EnviCare Consulting, Inc. All Rights Reserved Worldwide

Teenagers Share How An Anger Management Class Impacted Their Lives

I enjoy listening to teenagers. They have a lot to offer to society if we would only understand and listen to them. They are valuable to society and we shouldn't ignore their great potential. Recently, I worked with some teenagers in my Keys to Success Program (Anger Management Class). The program is designed to give teenagers strategies and encouragements to control their feelings and emotions when Mr and Mrs. Attitude and Temper (Mr and Mrs. A.T.) take control of them. They are taught that they are Mr. and Mrs. A.T. They are informed of their responsibility to control them because they can't defeat them. I am hopeful that these two young men will be very successful in life. The keys to success must also include support from the family.


It is absolutely fascinating to see changes in a teenager's life when they learn to control their feeling and emotions. They have a since of accomplishment and value in their lives when they are in control. It also helps teenagers to build their self-esteem. When a teenager is equipped to control their emotions and feelings positively, they will overcome any obstacles in life. Listed below are comments shared by Toney and Logan.


Toney's Story


"When I first came to the anger management class, I had my mind made up that I wouldn't learn anything. I felt the class would be a waste of time. As the day went by, we stated to talk more about life and about what was going on in our lives, then the class became interesting. I had an opportunity to share why I get mad. I learned about what I needed to work on to control my attitude and temper. Being in the small group environment, helped made it easy to open up and share the real things that were going on in my life. I learned how attitude causes pain and frustration and how temper causes angry and destruction toward self and others. That really helped me out the most. There were times when I would get mad for no reason. I never knew the consequences of being angry or anything. I learned that everything is not going to be perfect. When you react to things in a disrespectful way, you are going to receive what you invested in your life. I have learned how to respect others."


Logan's Story


"The anger management class helped me see that getting angry and frustrated over needless situations and arguments are pointless. You can control your attitude and temper with self-control and you must have the ability to want to succeed. Without allowing attitude and temper to control you, life can be a lot more stress free and enjoyable. If you are happy with yourself and the people you surround yourself with, it makes life happier, and less frustrating. Uncontrolled attitude and temper are attributes you don't need in your life, because they can make someone into somebody they don't want to become.

"The anger management class has made me see clear in areas that I wasn't fond of before and has guided me into building better character and becoming a better person."

The anger management class helped me to deal with my attitude and temper which is helping me in everyday life. I also learned the importance of being successful and maintaining that success. You must put effort into being successful. Success is what drives me to become more determined toward living a successful life. The anger management has made me see clear in areas that I wasn't fond of before and has guided me into building better character and becoming a better person."






Written by Mr. Wisdom


(c) 2011 EnviCare Consulting, Inc.                All Rights Reserved Worldwide

Men and Women Comment on Anger Management Workshop

In this post, you will learn valuable information from comments adults wrote after attending an anger management workshop. Listed below are their responses to two basic questions:

1. What did you learn from the anger management workshop?
2. What will you do differently as a result of attending the anger management workshop?

Hopefully, you will use this information to reflect on changes you might need to make in your own life relating to anger and lack of self-control.

Question 1: What did you learn from the anger management workshop?

•  How to control my anger and temper. How to turn the other cheek.
•  My attitude and my temper must be in control at all times in order to change my surroundings and myself.
•  How to be yourself and have control. 
• Several ways to control anger and temper.
• I learned it's about balancing the positive and negative.
• How to deal with situations when people get on your nerves. Don't get mad and handle it very professionally. 
• To be a better person and how to respond to different situations positively.
• How to deal with stress.
• Controlling my attitude and temper. Difference in effect of attitude and temper. Strategies to work towards improving our attitude/temper.
• Having a positive attitude and good outlook.
• I learned that I don't give people the appropriate amount of credit sometimes.
• Strategies to help to develop success and how to overcome obstacles as we live.
• To control my anger. We can't please everyone.
• How to control my anger so that I can be productive.
• I learned that everyone is different and no two people think the same. By controlling our attitude and temper, accepting those who are different is easier.
• A little about myself and that my anger is coming from lack of self-control.
• I learned some great ideas for life skills. I also learned to make the right choice, use the right words and that my actions speak louder than words.
• How to overcome obstacles in a positive way. I also was reminded that I have to believe in myself.
• Learned of life skills that I knew and will continue to build them in my life.

 Question 2: What will you do differently as a result of attending the anger management workshop?

• Take more time for myself. Think before I speak. Use my piggy bank (brain) wisely.
• I will continue to have self-control and be more sensitive to others.
• Try things out and be heard.
• Try to forgive others that hurt me and my feelings.
• Think before responding to a bad situation and not to be hurtful with words.
• Stand your ground but not angrily. Keep a cool head.
• Control my attitude and temper.
• Be the bigger person and apologize.
• Work towards improving my negative attitude which will improve my personality.
• Have a better attitude.
• Continue working on improving my teamwork skills.
• Don't let other's burdens weigh me down. Keep moving forward.
• Control myself and not be too bossy.
• This has helped me to continue my path in forgiving and learning that we are all different. I would not change a thing.
• I will express myself more so that I can go on with what I need to do with respect
• More self control and finding why I feel the way I do. Set goals for myself. Store positive things in my piggy bank (brain).
• I will reevaluate my attitude and actions. I will always think before I speak so that I will choose the right words.
• I will work on me and as I work on me, try to be the better person. I will also work on letting things go. Look over the handout as a reminder to deposit positively into my piggy bank (brain).

Comments:

Life is never simple and you will face challenges as long as you live. You have a responsibility to control your attitude and temper without destroying yourself and others. If you are currently experiencing problem with anger, consider attending an anger management workshop. It could improve your relationships with your children, family and friends. Learn to communicate your feelings with respect and you will feel better about yourself.

Written by Mr. Wisdom

(c) 2010 All Rights Reserved Worldwide

http://www.envicareinc.com/

Twenty Issues That Negatively Impact the Family

There are many situations that negatively impact the foundation of the family. This article focuses on twenty issues that negatively impact the success of a family. Solutions are also provided to help the family to move in the right direction. Every family must identify the best strategies they can use to ensure the success of their family. Use appropriate tools that work for your family. Listed below are solutions to help you to deal with the twenty Issue that negatively impact the family:

Issue #1 Instability in the home

Solution: Provide stability and avoid divorce if possible; do not live together without being married. Reward each other for good deeds.

Issue #2 Decline of role models

Solution: Avoid being involved with activities that will negatively impact your child’s behavior. Value your child’s opinion. Admit when you are wrong and apologize.

Issue #3 Decline in spirituality

Solution: Teach your child spiritual values. Lead by example. If you do not teach them about spirituality someone will.

Issue #4 Lack of consistent discipline

Solution: Provide consistent discipline with love; explain reason (s) for disciplinary action. Avoid arguments that lead to unproductive discussions. Provide the child with boundaries.

Issue #5 Lack of father or mother in the home

Solution: Both mother and father are needed in the home if possible. If not, fathers need to be involved in some manner with the child as well as the mother.

Issue #6 Lack of communication

Solution: Value good communication. Give the child a sense of security by being there for them regardless of their actions. Let your yes mean yes and no mean no! Explain clearly any changes in decision.

Issue #7 Poor listening skills

Solution: Learn when to give advice and when to listen.

Issue #8: Drug and alcohol abuse
Solution: Communicate the dangers of using drugs, alcohol and the negative impact it has on their lives and others.

Issue # 9: Sexual abuse

Solution: Share with your child the purpose of sex and inform them of inappropriate behavior that can hurt them and others for years. Discuss the consequences such as sexual transmitted diseases (STD's) and pregnancy. Discuss with them that sex offenders will be labeled as a sex offenders and that it will impact their freedom to work and live anywhere they desire.

Issue #10 Lack of family time

Solution: Eat dinner together. Participate in your child (s) activities (hobbies and sports). Limit child involvement in activities that keeps him/her away from the family.

Issue #11 Peer pressure

Solution: Build positive self-esteem by giving important tasks to perform and encourage volunteer work. Let your child know you are proud of the small things they do correctly. Hopefully it will decrease their potential to give into peer pressure.

Issue #12: Inability to control attitude and temper

Solution: Avoid reacting to negative situations but calmly communicate your feelings to the child with respect. Use control when you are angry about your child’s negative behavior.

Issue #13 Too much emphasis on material possessions

Solution: Instill good work ethics. Share with your child the importance of waiting for material things.

Issue #14 Lack of extended family

Solution: Allow your child to get to know his or her grandparents. Get advice and support from other family members.

Issue #15 Insufficient love and hugs

Solution: Tell your child you love him or her and give them a hug.

Issue #16 Character attack

Solution: Build your child’s character by understanding their needs. Dislike the negative behavior but love the child. Do not call the child stupid or dumb. Avoid using undesirable language to attack your child's character.

Issue #17 Lack of goals and vision

Solution: Teach the child the importance of setting goals.

Issue #18 Lack of skill to manage money

Solution: Teach the child about money management. Set up a savings account at home or bank.

Issue #19 Selfishness

Solution: Teach a child how to serve others with compassion.

Issue # 20 Lack of forgiveness

Solution: Encourage a child to forgive those who hurt him or her. This allows the child to grow beyond the pain they have experienced.

These are simple solution to help you develop a strong family foundation that will last a life time. Parents, you will make mistakes but do not allow your mistakes to put you or your family in bondage. You must seek every legal means possible to ensure the success of your family. Live a life you know that will be a guiding light for you and your family.

Written by: Mr. Wisdom

http://www.successtoparenting.com/

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