Are You and Your Family Involved With An In Crowd

Ephesians 2:11-22

This study focuses on issues we face relating to being excluded from an in crowd and how important it is to associate yourself and your family with the right group of people.

Points to Ponder

1. There was a time when you were excluded from the in crowd because you were different (Ephesians 2:11).
2. When you were excluded from the in crowd, you missed many benefits because Christ wasn’t within your heart (Ephesians 2:12).
3. If you know Christ, you are part of the in crowd and there are no longer barriers to separate you from God (Ephesians 2:13).
4. Jesus’ death and resurrection allows every race to be a part of the in crowd if they accept and believe that Jesus Christ is Lord (Ephesians 2:14-18).
5. You are the church of God because the spirit of the Lord dwells within you and you have access to Him always (Ephesians 2:19-22).

Something to Consider

Have you ever felt excluded from an in crowd. If your answer is yes, you are not alone. Everyone in the world has felt excluded at one time. There are times when you wish you could be part of an in crowd because of the wonderful things they appear to be doing. They have parties, cars, electronic devices and many friends. When you reflect on your life, you conclude your life is boring or worthless.

You must let go of those feelings and the world’s views of an in crowd. You can get involved with the greatest in crowd that exist in the universe. Get involved with an in crowd that loves Jesus Christ, love their enemy, return evil with good, forgive those who hurt them and unselfishly serve others . They are demonstrating with their lives that their foundation is built on truth, love, faith, mercy, compassion and commitment.

You can’t lose when you are involved with an in crowd. However, you must always respect those that are different but dislike their deeds that contradicts Godly principles. Jesus came to earth so that we all might be one in Christ and you are the road map for many who are not involved with an in crowd. Work hard to teach your family about God because he will grant you great joy as you travel the road life.

Written By Mr Wisdom

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Factors That Influence Teenagers Negatively

Listed below are several factors that contribute to the negative behavior of teenagers. It's important to understand these factors in order to properly respond to their issues. These factors were identified and discussed during a workshop with teachers. The more we understand the behavior of children and teenagers, we will have gain sufficient knowledge to teach them how to deal with life's issues.

Responses to question why do students get in trouble?

1. Peer pressure
2. Lack of good decision making skills
3. Poor home environment
4. Lack of attention
5. Lack of skills to perform specific tasks
6. Lack of parental supervision and involvement
7. Lose-lose situations no matter how hard they try
8. Lack of motivation
9. No way out of their situation

Society needs to work together to help our children and teens to fill the void they have in their lives. The family is the heart of society. Parents have the power to influence and impact the hearts of their children to make right choices. Those of us in the profession of providing services to families can equip parents with additional tools needed to ensure the success of their children.


Written by Mr. Wisdom

(c) 2010 EnviCare Consulting, Inc.
http://www.successtoparenting.com/

Twenty Issues That Negatively Impact the Family

There are many situations that negatively impact the foundation of the family. This article focuses on twenty issues that negatively impact the success of a family. Solutions are also provided to help the family to move in the right direction. Every family must identify the best strategies they can use to ensure the success of their family. Use appropriate tools that work for your family. Listed below are solutions to help you to deal with the twenty Issue that negatively impact the family:

Issue #1 Instability in the home

Solution: Provide stability and avoid divorce if possible; do not live together without being married. Reward each other for good deeds.

Issue #2 Decline of role models

Solution: Avoid being involved with activities that will negatively impact your child’s behavior. Value your child’s opinion. Admit when you are wrong and apologize.

Issue #3 Decline in spirituality

Solution: Teach your child spiritual values. Lead by example. If you do not teach them about spirituality someone will.

Issue #4 Lack of consistent discipline

Solution: Provide consistent discipline with love; explain reason (s) for disciplinary action. Avoid arguments that lead to unproductive discussions. Provide the child with boundaries.

Issue #5 Lack of father or mother in the home

Solution: Both mother and father are needed in the home if possible. If not, fathers need to be involved in some manner with the child as well as the mother.

Issue #6 Lack of communication

Solution: Value good communication. Give the child a sense of security by being there for them regardless of their actions. Let your yes mean yes and no mean no! Explain clearly any changes in decision.

Issue #7 Poor listening skills

Solution: Learn when to give advice and when to listen.

Issue #8: Drug and alcohol abuse
Solution: Communicate the dangers of using drugs, alcohol and the negative impact it has on their lives and others.

Issue # 9: Sexual abuse

Solution: Share with your child the purpose of sex and inform them of inappropriate behavior that can hurt them and others for years. Discuss the consequences such as sexual transmitted diseases (STD's) and pregnancy. Discuss with them that sex offenders will be labeled as a sex offenders and that it will impact their freedom to work and live anywhere they desire.

Issue #10 Lack of family time

Solution: Eat dinner together. Participate in your child (s) activities (hobbies and sports). Limit child involvement in activities that keeps him/her away from the family.

Issue #11 Peer pressure

Solution: Build positive self-esteem by giving important tasks to perform and encourage volunteer work. Let your child know you are proud of the small things they do correctly. Hopefully it will decrease their potential to give into peer pressure.

Issue #12: Inability to control attitude and temper

Solution: Avoid reacting to negative situations but calmly communicate your feelings to the child with respect. Use control when you are angry about your child’s negative behavior.

Issue #13 Too much emphasis on material possessions

Solution: Instill good work ethics. Share with your child the importance of waiting for material things.

Issue #14 Lack of extended family

Solution: Allow your child to get to know his or her grandparents. Get advice and support from other family members.

Issue #15 Insufficient love and hugs

Solution: Tell your child you love him or her and give them a hug.

Issue #16 Character attack

Solution: Build your child’s character by understanding their needs. Dislike the negative behavior but love the child. Do not call the child stupid or dumb. Avoid using undesirable language to attack your child's character.

Issue #17 Lack of goals and vision

Solution: Teach the child the importance of setting goals.

Issue #18 Lack of skill to manage money

Solution: Teach the child about money management. Set up a savings account at home or bank.

Issue #19 Selfishness

Solution: Teach a child how to serve others with compassion.

Issue # 20 Lack of forgiveness

Solution: Encourage a child to forgive those who hurt him or her. This allows the child to grow beyond the pain they have experienced.

These are simple solution to help you develop a strong family foundation that will last a life time. Parents, you will make mistakes but do not allow your mistakes to put you or your family in bondage. You must seek every legal means possible to ensure the success of your family. Live a life you know that will be a guiding light for you and your family.

Written by: Mr. Wisdom

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Commit to Having a Fun Weekend

Here's my challenge for every family in the world. I challenge you to focus on encouraging and up lifting each other with kind words and deeds. Make a commitment to enjoy life on a weekend you choose. Do not use any negative words that might hurt a family member.

It will be a great challenge because you can't control others but you can control yourself. Here are some suggestions:

1. Send your family members a nice text message.
2. E-mail them an encouraging word.
3. Leave a note under their pillow or in their shoe or in the car or you can do all of them.
4. Take time to go for a walk.
5. Take a car ride to where you have not boldly gone before.

Whatever you choose to do, be creative, but plan to have an absolutely fun time. When you have completed the weekend, talk about your experience with each other. I hope you will experience an event that will be remembered for a life time.

Written by Mr. Wisdom
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